Social Story About Making Friends (Free & Printable)

Many children want friends but do not know how to begin. Other kids seem to know an unwritten set of rules: how to join a game, what to say, what to do when someone says no. For autistic children and for children who are shy, those rules can feel completely invisible.

This social story makes them visible. It gives the child real words to use, shows what friends do together, and explains that hearing “no” is normal and does not mean nobody likes you. Friendship looks different for every child, so adapt the story to what your child actually wants.

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How I Make a Friend

My name is Eli. There are many children at my school and at the park.
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A friend is someone I like to spend time with. Friends are kind to each other.
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I can look for children who are doing something I like, such as building or drawing.
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I can walk over and say, “Hi, my name is Eli.”
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I can ask, “Can I play with you?” or “What are you making?”
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If they say yes, we can play together. We can take turns and share ideas.
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Sometimes they might say no. That is okay. They may want to finish their game.
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I can try again later, or ask someone else.
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Making friends takes practice. I am kind, and I am learning how.
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Why this social story helps

The story turns “go make friends” into small steps a child can rehearse: find a shared interest, say hello, ask to join. Preparing for “no” is just as important, because one rejection can stop a child from trying again. Starting from what the child already enjoys also makes the first conversation far easier.

How to use this social story

Print the story (two pages per sheet works well) or show it on a tablet.
Read it together once a day during a calm time, for at least a few days before the situation.
Read it again just before the situation happens, and keep a copy nearby as a reminder.
Swap the name and details for your child, or add real photos, so it matches their world.

What makes this a good social story

This story follows the social story approach described by Carol Gray. It is written from the child’s point of view, uses short and literal sentences, and spends most of its words describing the situation and how people feel. Only a few sentences gently suggest what to do, and they use “I can” instead of “I must”. The story names a difficult feeling as normal and ends on an encouraging note, so the child links the situation with calm and confidence rather than with being told off.

Tips for parents and teachers

Role-play the words at home with toys before trying them with other children.
Set up small, structured play dates around a shared interest instead of open free play.
Tell the teacher about the story so they can help at recess.
Do not push for lots of friends. One good friend, or enjoying playing alongside others, is success too.
Point out friendly moments in books and shows, and talk about what the characters did.

Questions to talk about after reading

What do friends do for each other?
What can you say to join a game?
What can you do if someone says no?
Who would you like to play with this week?

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